Valentine's Day is a special day. It can cause a lot of anxiety--or it can bring on tremendous feelings of intimacy and connection.
Many people put a lot of pressure on themselves chasing the ideal Valentine's Day. But Valentine’s Day originated as a marker of the point in February that the birds began to pair. It was only as time passed that the day began to be seen as specially consecrated to lovers. It became a sacred occasion for writing passionate letters and sending tokens of love to the object of affection.
Today in our world, with the long history of Valentine’s Day, the holiday can bring up many emotions for people, single or not; it’s a pretty “loaded” day. If you are in a relationship, you may have expectations of what should happen, you may want things to go your way, you may get disappointed, sulk, or pout with your partner. If you are single, you may feel alone, doomed, and hurt; or you may desperately search for a date. No matter what situation you are in, Valentine’s Day can stir up a mixture of feelings. It can be a huge trigger for many people.
This year on Valentine’s Day, I suggest a different approach. Valentine's Day is one week away and I ask: What would it be like to dedicate this special day to the sacred purpose of getting to know yourself?
What would it be like to realize that Valentine's Day presents you with an opportunity to truly consecrate your love for yourself. If you are in a partnership on Valentine’s Day, make it special for your partner and for yourself by taking in a play or giving each other a massage. If you are single, plan some extraordinary simple pleasure like dinner with friends or relaxing in a luxurious bubble bath with a good book.
No matter what appeals to you this Valentine’s Day or what your status around partnership, love yourself. You have a great opportunity to make the day special.
This year be your own valentine--and take the pressure off! What will you do?
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