It is a fact that you always feel alone when you are with an emotionally
unavailable partner. I put the emphasis on always.
There is always the feeling that you are not getting what you need.
It’s not a normal state to be in relationship with the
unavailable type, but it may feel normal to you. That is because you may be
used to not getting what you need. But always
feeling lonely and needy in a relationship is a sign that something is wrong.
Before we talk about what to do if you answer yes when I ask
you if you always feel needy in your
relationship, let’s consider some of the reasons we may stay in unfulfilling
relationships.
Put simply, we may do this because:
If we are in a relationship where we never get what we need
and always feel lonely—at least we know the outcome. We know from the get-go
that we will get hurt. There is no danger because we know in advance that we
will be unsatisfied. As strange as it may sound, this may feel safer than the
‘risk’ of loving an emotionally available partner. If we are with someone unavailable,
we never have to be intimate. And for those of us who are afraid of intimacy—afraid
of being vulnerable and showing others who we truly are—then being with an
emotionally unavailable partner makes perfect sense. It’s a no-brainer.
But, the problem is that the way we are trying to take care
of ourselves may no longer be working. If you are reading this blog post, you
may have gotten sick of being hurt all the time. You are probably sick of being
in pain all the time—being lonely all the time.
If this is the case, change is possible. There is an
emotionally available partner out there who is eager to meet you and share love
in the type of partnership you want. Getting the love you crave can be done.
Hang in there, and journey to true love as countless others have done before.
It works!
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