You Are A Great Catch!

Do you know what a great catch you are?

Do you know how lucky an emotionally available person would be to share time with you?

Do you understand that you are good enough for a great relationship right now?

If you answered yes to these questions, good for you.

If you cannot completely believe that these things are true about you, I want to tell you that they are. And if you don't believe them now, you can learn to see that they are the truth.

You are terrific. Any emotioanlly abvailable person would be lucky to have you as a partner. You are a great catch!

So I want to point out that the journey to knowing and claiming these truths for yourself is as important as the goal of sustaining a wonderful relationship. The journey to profound self-acceptance is worth all the time and energy it takes. And a interesting fact is that if you still haven't found the relationship "success" you are seeking, that might be because you still have the opportunity to love yourself more fully right now.

I know this may not be what you want to hear. You may want a quick fix, to get the 'brass ring' right now. I understand, But I also know how crucial it is to learn how amazing, worthwile and deserving you are right now - because then when you do meet someone available, you will be able to say, "Wow, they are so lucky to meet me." "They are so lucky to have a partner like me." "I am such a good catch."

This is not egotism, this is reality. And to know this to the center of your core is the great gift of this work. Love is your birthright, and you deserve it. Although it can be painful to really look at the root causes of what keeps you stuck in unsatisfying relationships, it truly is a great opportunity to get to the heart of the matter - and then to get beyond it!

Move on to an emotionally avaiable partner and share the richness of who you are in a fulfilling, harmonic relationship - the relationship of your dreams. Live and love and stop letting our self-hatred, shame and guilt hold you back. Get and keep the relationship you've always wanted. It all starts with you!

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Fusses and Slips

Have you recently had a fuss with the person you have been dating. Did they ask you if you are pushing them away? At this point, instead of worrying what will happen, if the relationship will dissolve, think about your answer to their question. Are you really trying to push them away?

No matter what the answer is, you are still alright. Even if you are trying to push them away when you get triggered by something they do, you are still worthy of love.

It is so easy in relationships to take everything very seriously, and believe that the partnership is doomed when you have a fuss with someone you care about; but that is unrealistic. As humans, we are all flawed, and we will make mistakes sometimes, overreact sometimes, and fly off the handle sometimes.

The important thing is to apologize, own up to what was going on for you, and make a committment to handle things a bit more skillfully the next time there is a glitch.

The truth is you can't say the wrong thing to the right person. So relax and take things easy. Let the person you care about know you are sorry--and then move on. Life is too short to worry. Enjoy yourself, have fun and let loose a little. There is always a new opportunity to love waiting for you!
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Pursuing Life Passionately

Life is not about struggle; life is about pleasure. We may have had challenging and disheartening experiences in the past with partnership, but those difficult experiences don't have to rule us forever. Often it's the old story that holds us back and hurts so much.

On old adage states that pain is mandatory; suffering is optional. I suggest that the same adage applies to relationships. Don't wallow in suffering--move on from the old story that hurts so much.

Today try a new way. Assert the belief that life is about joy, not sorrow. If there are fun experiences you would like to try, envision what it would be like to try these out. If there are potential partners that ou want to connect with, take positive steps to getting closer to these people. If there are ways you would like to contribute, offer your skills.

We were put on this earth to enjoy ourselves. Today is the day to go after your dreams and aspirations with the sure knowledge that amazing things will happen to you. When you contribute to the universe even a little bit and explore all the richness available to you, you are pursuing life positively. And you are emotionally available--and you can attract someone who can share true love with you.
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Holding on So Tightly

Holding on so tightly to a partner is a common problem when we choose the unavailable type. We want to hold on to what little love is available, but we can end up pushing the person away. It is not an eefective strategy for a healthy relationship. And when we do attract an emotionally available person, we may continue to hold on too tightly, even though there is plenty of love to give and get. We do this because we are used to holding on - after having been with unavailable partners for so long.

So what can we do to avoid this this debilitating problem and keep from pushing love away?

The best strategy is to check in with ourselves when we can see that we are trying to take a hostage. Then we can remind ourselves that our goal is to be the emotionally available partner we seek.

Emotionally available people know that they don't have to hold on tight to force love. They know that love is always available and there is more than enough to go around. They know that love is it's own energy that builds when shared - and when it is not held with a tight grip.

Today, remember what you know intuitively because you are the emotionally available partner. Let your love go - trusting that they will be there when you need them. And if they aren't, you will get more information about their availability quotient.

Everything is progress and love. Trust in the process and get more information by letting go!

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Taking Ourselves and Our Relationships So Seriously

What would it be like to wear your relationship like a loose garment?
Isn’t it boring to always to be worried about your issues 24/7? All that worry won’t help you make a relationship work. Realize that you are not powerful enough to influence any romantic situation by being overly serious about it. Everything is being worked out for the highest good.

Emotional availability is characterized by light-heartedness. If you imagine wearing your relationship like a loose garment, rather than a constricting piece of clothing, you can take some of the pressure off yourself.

Talking about entertainment, sporting events, the weather, trivia, and other news can be an antidote to the dilemma of heavy-heartedness. Emotional unavailability is characterized by an obsessive focus on how everything relates to the relationship; today make a choice to get out of yourself by talking to others. Then listen to them in return.

Today release all over-seriousness and let in the love of an emotionally available partner - yourself!
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Are You a Love Hoarder?

Many people have trouble listening to stop signals in love relationships. It can be hard to listen to my ourselves and stop when we feel close to someone we are crazy about. We don't want the good feelings to stop.
But emotional availability knows there will always be a new love experience waiting to refill us when we need it. Love is everything; the whole universe is love. Love doesn’t just come from our partner. We have much love to give as well as to receive; however, sometimes we want to hoard the love.
We think we need to get as much as we can in relationships as fast as possible. We are afraid to let go of another person. We fear we may not ever be as full of love for them again as we are right now.

When we are full of love for our partner, it takes great courage to stop and let go a little. With practice, though, we see that stopping when we are full allows us more opportunities to experience our desires. Taking a baby step back from our love lets us refill ourselves anytime. Then we experience the magic of feeling our desire well up!

Today, know there will be a fresh new love experience waiting for you as soon as you feel your desire for your partner surface again.And heed your own stop signals for fun and pleasure! Feel free to let me know how it feels.
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Developing A Prosperity Consciousness Around Relationships

        A lot of times, all we hear about in the media is the lack of available partners. But, as a matter of fact, statistics show that today there are more single people in the world than ever before. Scarcity is simply not realistic. You have the chance to pick with ease - especially if you do a little mental reconceptualizing.
        My question to you is: What would it look like to develop a prosperity consciousness around partnership? What would it be like to think that there are more than enough potential life-mates out there and that many wonderful potential partners would love to connect with you right now? 
       You may be ready to argue with me but I want to tell you a secret-there are!There are many people right now who want to date and mate a person just like you. You have the ability to choose with ease--you just may not know it or you may not recognize it.

Let me give you a few good examples and suggest a few great ways to meet them.

One way to gather your courage to interact with people in the world is to re-conceptualize socializing as a low-pressure activity. Take some of the pressure off. Many social clubs exist which are forums for low-pressure interaction. Sports teams, civic minded organizations, and spiritual or religious communities are also excellent places to meet people for conversation and activities.

         Another option is to pursue activities you love, areas you may be waiting to explore until that “someone special” comes into your life. I’ve seen this over and over. I had one client who wanted to sail. He got into it and was having such a great time that he almost didn’t notice two amazing women who were trying to get his attention. Smart guy—he finally got the message and is dating one of those ladies today.
         Another client of mine is a big fan of fine wine and she is having a great time attending social events. She even started organizing fundraisers and getting wineries to contribute pricey bottles to auction off for charity. Not only is she giving back but she tells me she’s met a whole crew of fun, single guys. Most importantly, she feels empowered and is doing something she loves.
         Reality all starts with belief--so make love comfortable for yourself by believing there are lots of people to connect with. Then you can interact with them and choose who really fulfills YOU!
          You deserve a great relationship-and as soon as you realize this in your heart, an emotionally available partner will realize it too. Then watch the love build and build!
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