A lot of people have been asking me lately about the concept of legalization where we allow ourselves to date all types of individuals - and from inside us, choose who we really like to be with.
So what does it look like to legalize all people? Legalization means that whatever type of person we want is OK. Spiritual people, construction workers, charmers, financial planners, unavailable people, egomaniacs, younger people, older people, people from radically different backgrounds, and kind people are all equal. No one is 'better' or 'worse'.
The legalization process seems scary because many of us wish we could just have a rule book to follow; however, the rules are inside of us. Our internal knowing signals who it feels good to be with - all we need to do is listen.
But first we need to give ourselves permission.
When we legalize all potential partners, and decide that anyone we are interested in connecting with is legal for us, then individuals begin to have no charge. They are neither bad nor good. And the exciting part is that we get to ask questions to see how we feel in being with this person. Is the charmer narcissistic and exciting, while the kind person is boring but loving? How does this make us feel? What do we want from this person? Can we get what we want from them?
Though it is scary to let go of the rules and prohibitions that may have bound us in our past dating lives, going through the legalization process makes it unnecessary for us to rebel, lose touch with our own signal, attempt to follow rules that dictate who we “should” be with, and run to those who can’t possibly be available.
All we have to do is stay in touch with ourselves as we mingle so that we get the real answers - not what we've been spoonfed all our lives.
Legalization moves us toward a wonderful, emotionally available person, so today practice and know that all people are legal. Give yourself the gift of exploring what type of person you enjoy interacting with - and then find out who truly gives you what you need.
Enjoy!
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