Are You Experiencing A Lot of Fear About Relationships?

Whenever our relationship fears take over, we can be certain that there are feelings coming up inside of us. All of our issues with partnership are actually a great tactic we have used to distract ourselves from feelings that seem too painful to face. Our obsessions with unavailable people, detours from intimacy, and anger at those who “did us wrong,” are all ways to distract ourselves from feeling the feelings working in us.

Many of us have developed this trait to defend against feelings we think will overwhelm us. We fear that if we face our feelings, then nothing will be left. We fear we won’t be able to handle the pain; we think that we might die if we feel.

If you are feeling a lot of fear right now about your relationship, check in with your feelings. Feelings are the only thing we can trust and they need to be respected. We access our feelings by getting centered, meditating, talking to friends, or working with a counselor.

Today we have the miraculous opportunity to hear what our feelings are saying, which will heal our relationships.  

Relationship issues do not stick around to punish us or make our lives bad—they are actually hanging on so that we can get closer to ourselves. Then we can be more honest about what we need and want in a relationship. Then we can let in an emotionally available partner.

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The Importance of Fun

How much fun are you having these days?

Whether you are single or in a relationship, it is so important to have a good time. The only medicine with no side effects is laughter. Today think of some fun things you can do for yourself and the one you love. Being lighthearted is one of the secrets of emotional availability. Nothing has to be so serious today. Let yourself play.

Single? Are you waiting to do some fabulous, exciting things for yourself until partner comes into your life? You don't have to wait. Think about things you'd like to try--thing that make your heart happy. Then get out there and try something you have wanted to do all your life.

In a relationship? Try some of those things that you have dreamed about doing with the one you love.

Emotional availability is about letting go of outcomes and making ourselves happy - then we can truly show up for others as a full, complete partner. Today think of things to try that will really make you feel good. You deserve it!

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What an Emotionally Unavailable Partner Does to Your Soul

In my journey to true love, I found several things to be true. There is no partner who is:

-So good in bed
-So rich
-So attractive
-So popular
-So sexy
-So powerful

that it is worth hurting my soul.

If you find you are constantly getting hurt with a partner who is fabulous in one or many of the ways listed above, think about what that person may be doing to your soul. If it hurts a lot to be with your unavailable partner, think about other options.

You deserve a great relationship that nurtures your soul, heart, mind and body. And that partnership is available to you at any time!

www.theemotionallyavailablepartner.com

Following Up On My Last Post

So let's talk practically about what happens if you are with someone who is not available--but are reluctant to take the plunge and let them go because of not wanting to be alone.

Well, its completely alright to do this; however, it will be more difficult to let in someone available if you are with an unavailable person. Not only will you be partnered, so that single energy that says 'I'm ready to meet someone great' won't be broadcasting, but you also will probably be consumed with the problems in the relationship with the unavailable partner.

I want to say that the real problem is fear. Fear of not getting what we want. Fear of being alone. We all deal with it all the time. It's debilitating.

Being emotionally available is about living and loving without so much fear. Of course, we are all going to become fearful from time to time. That is a reality. And fear can even be a good motivator.

But when we are so afraid to leave a toxic relationship, then we are hurting ourselves and the question becomes, "Why do I want to feel bad?"

It's worth asking this question and really listening to the answer.

You are an amazing person who deserves the best that love has to offer. You deserve an emotionally available partner. Hang in there and believe it because it is true. The love you dream of is just waiting for you to let go of your fear a little bit. And then, with that opening, an emotionally available partner can come into your life.

www.theemotionallyavailablepartner.com

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