Do you worry about what other think of you and who you are
dating/in a relationship with? So many people have fears of this nature. They
worry they will be perceived as a “Cougar” or “Cradle Robber” if they date
someone younger than them. They are concerned about what people will think if
they want to date someone out of their faith or social class. They may feel
attracted to someone who doesn’t fit into the traditional notions of what is “good
looking.”
It’s normal to consider what other people will think of
your partner, but many of us have let other people rule us. Often, this hasn’t
worked out so well.
What I suggest is that you legalize all people. Make a
decision that today all potential
partners are legal for you.
Individuals have no
charge. They are neither bad nor good. Whatever type of person you want is OK. All
you have to do is stay in touch with yourself when you are with a potential
partner.
The legalization process seems
scary because many of us wish we could just have a rule book to follow;
however, the rules are inside of us. Our internal knowing signals who it feels
good to be with. Though it is scary, going through the legalization process
makes it unnecessary for us to rebel, lose touch with our own signal, attempt
to follow rules that dictate who we “should” be with, and run to those who can’t
possibly be available. Legalization is the part of healing that moves us toward
a wonderful person.
Today, practice—and worry less
about what other people think!
www.theemotionallyavailablepartner.com
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