Valentine's Day is approaching fast and I always like to remember that it originally started because that was the day the birds began to pair. It wasn't a big deal, it was just an awareness that spring was on its way. Someone probably said, "Look at the birds. Isn't that iteresting?" Ultimately it wasn't any momentous occasion tied to people's relationship status.
But somehow, things have changed. What was once a casual observation has become a very commercialized holiday. In fact, in our society, there is so much emphasis, intensity, and longing thrown into the mix around Valentine's Day that it can become very overwhelming - whether you are in a partnership or not.
If you are with a partner, there are expectations about how you wish to be treated; and that can lead to disappointment. If you are not currently partnered, it can be a time to feel 'less than' or wonder why everyone else seems to be in a couple.
I think it's important to merge the two extremes as we approach Valentine's Day. It can be a holiday we choose to emphasize, and at the same time simply be an awareness that the earth is stirring and nature is heating up. It can be an amalgam, taking all the best and leaving out the hype that can make us feel pressure.
So think carefully about what you want to do this Valentine's Day. Do you want to spend time with someone special? Do you want to be alone with a good book, a hot bath, and lots of cnadles? Do you want to go to dinner? Do you want to be with friends and family?
Treat yourself special and you will be more able to treat the one you love the same way. We all deserve love - and we all deserve to enjoy Valentine's Day!
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