Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Expecting the Fairy Tale

Yes, you can expect the fairy tale in your emotionally available relationship - but I warn you, it's not going to look like the traditional "Happily Ever After" you see in the movies and on TV.

Feeding love takes effort, but many of us expect the fairy tale perfection of a relationship without being willing to do the work involved to sustain or nurture that partnership. Our culture promotes the scenario that once we find the "right" partner, all will be well and we won't have to work for loving results.

In the media we don’t usually see the background effort that contributes to working partnerships. We really only see when things go wrong. But if we saw behind other people’s successful relationships, we would clearly see that both the partners work hard to maintain a healthy working relationship.

So yes, you will get your happy ending from being with an emotionally available partner - and I promise you that the fairy tale you will recieve is better than you could ever hope for. But the real pay-off from learning to be right-sized and to love an emotionally available partner is that we get to do the work every day. The work of a relationship itself is the gift. As we participate in actions that build, sustain, and constantly renew our love, we appreciate the discipline of showing up and we enjoy  a working relationship. And we know we deserve this great partner because we ARE a great partner who is esteemable.

We didn’t sign a contract that said life would be easy around people and relationships; however, we are assured of great rewards from resolving our attraction to the emotionally unavailable type. Today take joyful action to contribute to a working partnership and reap the deep rewards of a fairy tale ending truly worth the effort.

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