Do you ever flirt with people you find attractive? What if someone flirts with you? Does it make you embarrassed, happy, or aroused?
Flirting is a great way to open the door to a potential relationship or reignite the passion in an existing one but flirting is not to be taken seriously. Flirtation means to act amorously without having serious intentions. Flirtation is light, fun, and playful. The idea of flirtation is that it is a trifle.
You certainly may know how to flirt. You may even be quite good at it; however, it can be easy to take flirtations very seriously and put too much emphasis on it. And that can stop flirting from being good for you.
So why does this happen? Why does a harmless jolt like that hottie in the grocery store winking at you make you freeze up? This can happen for any number of reasons. If someone you consider undesirable flirts with you, you may become convinced that they want a relationship; then you run away from them. If a person you consider desirable flirts with you, it’s also easy to think that they want a relationship with you. Then you are disappointed if no partnership materializes.
It’s also easy in our culture to see another person as salvation rather than a fun dalliance or someone whose company you very much enjoy (Remember Jerry McGuire’s “You complete me”?). Focusing on the outcome, rather than the magic of attraction and joy, can make you wonder what the person who is flirting wants. Sometimes it’s even easy to deny that you are flirting with someone else. Flirting can also be very loaded for you if you are getting out of a relationship, are dealing with other major issues, or its holiday time as it is now.
But flirting is very good for you and there is one simple way to deal with this conundrum: flirt with potential partners you find attractive if you feel like it. Try it. There is no harm in flirting. It is fun and good for the soul. And you can do it whether you are in a relationship or not. Flirting is magic!
If you are in a partnership, enjoy the sensations of refocusing your love, attention, and care on your partner. Strew the bed with flowers. Play outside with your love in the crisp weather. If you are single, get out in the world and connect with potential partners. Enjoy watching them. Admire their vitality. Stand in awe of the joys of desire, and allow yourself to play.
And flirt out of the box. Flirtation can be anything from dressing a little bit provocatively to briefly touching someone's arm in conversation to batting your eyelashes. Flirting can be double entendres or suggestive comments made in passing. Flirting is not serious and it’s a great way to reconnect with the natural lover inside of you.
But some of you may be saying, “I’m out of practice in flirting. I’ve been out of the game for too long. I can't do it. I’ve never felt comfortable flirting. It’s too frightening. Who’d be into me anyway?” I say, today is the time to flex your flirting muscles if you feel so inclined. Flirting feels good. It is a free, harmless, enjoyable pleasure. Today try flirting for fun when you are attracted to someone. And don’t take it seriously! Flirtation is the re-awakening of our souls to attraction. Flirtations do not have to mean anything. Whatever shape your flirtations take, have fun because flirting is the absolute bomb and it’s crazy good for you!
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