Your Inner Love Critic

Have you ever been so 'on your own case' that you felt you couldn't be spontaneous or natural with a potential partner? Do you ever feel you must be perfect to get love from someone you care about? Does anxiety sometimes hold you back from sharing love with someone special?

If you answered 'yes' to any of these questions, you are certainly not alone. Most people have an inner critic in love matters. The inner love crtitic may develop early in a person's romantic life, or it may get more intense when taking the next step with a partner. However it manifests,the inner love critic is a real challenge.

But when you are someone who often falls for the emotionally unavailable type, the power of your inner love critic can stop you from pursuing relationships with people who can truly give you want you need--emotionally available partners.

So let's explore what the purpose of the inner love critic truly is. It really wants you to be happy, loved and safe; and it will use any means necessary to get you stay in ITS comfort zone. Unfortunately for folks who get easily hooked by emotionally unavailable individuals, the inner love critic can hold you back from the "RISK" of loving someone available. (The inner love critic's reasoning is: at least with an emotionally unavailable partner, you know it's not going to work out--so that is "less scary." But we all know the price of being with someone who cannot or will not meet our needs.)

So here I offer some tools to take the wind out of your inner love critic's sails.

1. Remember: the inner love critic's diatribe is NOT true.
2. Give your power back to joy.
3. Use a love boomerang that sends out love to others - and then boomerang it right back to you!
4. Shift the energy by dancing, exercising, spending time in nature, calling a good friend, or watching a funny movie
5. And, most importantly, give the inner love critic a voice. Journal a few minutes every day in the critic's voice, but then kindly thank the critic for sharing and move on.

You deserve an emotionally present person who is totally in love with you--and I want to tell you a secret: that person is waiting patiently for you to release the inner love critic and step into their arms.

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