Do you struggle with abandonment issues when in a relationship? Are you afraid your partner will leave - or do you always push them away before they can make an exit?
Lots of people who choose emotionally unavailable people are trying to control their abandonment issues by being with people who cannot commit.
It makes sense right? If someone is not available for a real relationship, then when they leave or the partnership ends, you were expecting it. It's not really so bad because the person was never truly available to you anyway.
But you are probably reading this blog because the pain of a relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner is killing you. You are probably saying to yourself: 'There has got to be more to life and love than living this way in my partnership.'
If you want a deep, committed relationship that fulfills you - and you stuggle with abandonment issues (as most of us do) - I suggest a wonderful tool.
It is called the Abandonment Check In.
When an event happens in your love life that triggers you, and you notice yourself falling into fears of being abandoned, ask:
-What is the intensity level of this abandonment issue?
-What thoughts run through your mind around this event?
-What kind of physical reactions are you experiencing?
-What actions did you take with your partner?
-Were there any other challenges you faced before you felt your abandonment issues pop up?
When you keep track of your responses to your fears of abandonment, it becomes easier to calm down and remember why you are with the one you love.
Abandonment issues don't have to run your life anymore - and there is help. Check out my website, http://www.theemotionallyavailablepartner.com/ for ideas and hang in there.
You deserve to share love with an emotionally available partner who loves you - and a person who will not leave.
Say 'Yes' to your dream relationship.
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