Communication in Relationships

Do you communicate with an individual when the time is right? Do you have impeccable timing in communicating with a partner?

If not, you are certainly not alone!

Timing is important in relationships. If a person is distracted, playing video games, seems to be mulling over a problem, or is concerned about work or the economy, chances are that is not the best time to approach them with heavy issues.

But what if you really need to share something important, or need to set a boundary?

Most of us are generally good at understanding timing; however, if we have had challenging experiences in the past trying to communicate with our partners, we've often let something go for too long. Then we may have exploded at someone or have refused to communicate at all with a person for lack of skill.
That's why understanding people’s patterns is essential to effective communication. We don't want to hinder the love - and we also need to be heard.

If we do not have the skill-set we would like in terms of understanding timing, there's a wealth of information on effective communication. Check the internet, talk to your friends or get a copy of The Emotionally Available Partner for great ideas. http://www.theemotionallyavailablepartner.com/

When we want what we want when we want it, it may not be the best time to connect with our partner. Usually a good rule of thumb is to wait at least five minutes to 48 hours before we discuss an important issue with a person. It's important that we are calm, and coming from a place of clarity and good-will, before we communicate.

The needs of the partner in our life deserve to be respected just as do our own needs. Effective communication in a relationship builds the love - and that's what we all want. We can judge timing correctly; we also deserve to be heard when it is appropriate.

Hang in there, get the support you need and then get ready to get your needs met as you share a rare relationship with an emotionally available partner!