Can you make the one you love change? The short answer is: not really. If your partner isn't doing things the way you want them to, the only thing that you can do to make them change and become the person that you fell in love with is to move back to being the person you were when you fell in love with them.
The best suggestion I have to offer if the love is leaving your partnership and you are desperate to make your partner change, is that YOU change. Hopefully, the one you love will follow your lead. Even if they don't, you will find yourself more fulfilled and happy when you make simple changes.
Ask yoursaelf: What brings you jo? What fulfills you? Where do you find your bliss? Then get back into those activities and watch the energy of your partnership change.
Whenever you find yourself trying to make someone else change, see that as an invitation to get back into some of the activities and relationships you "gave up" for them. My thought is that these interests will give you purpose and help you to stress less about any challenges that may come up in your relationship. It will also make you more of a complete person (which is always very attractive) and getting back into these interests will most likely make you happy.
We can never change another person, but light is contagious. Get into the good--because there is lots of it in the world--and watch as the harmony spills over into your romance.
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