How Does Your Partner Communicate?

A very important clue about the emotional availability of another person is how they communicate with you. Do they like to speak in person, on the telephone, by email, or by text? Do they only want to talk to you sometimes and not others? Are they too busy to answer your calls? Do you only hear from them late at night when they want to hook up?

The way a person communicates with you tells you a lot. So listen. If someone is emotionally available, they want to be with you. Not all the time, and not whenever you want, but an emotionally available partner will be present and will show up for the relationship about 80% of the time.

I know it's easy to convince yourself that a person is available when really they are not, so I have outlined some tips here for you to think about.

Does your partner only text you? Are they only available for email messages during the week? If so, NOTICE. The fact that they only text or email message speaks to the fact that they may not really be able to communicate at the level you want them to. Of course this doesn’t mean anything about them or you. You are not a chump if you are involved with this type of person and they are not a bad person. But it does mean that they may not able to give you what you need.

This week, think about what you need in a relationship. Take a look at how your partner communicates with you--and then take a look at how you communicate with them. An emotionally available partnership takes two willing participants who can show up for the other person and the relationship.

You deserve a great relationship and a partner who is there for you. You deserve the emotionally available partner--and that person is out there for you!

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