Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Perfection: Does it Have Anything to do With Emotional Availability?

In short, there is a simple answer to this question and the answer is no. Perfection has nothing to do with being emotional available. Emotionally available people are not perfect. In fact, they may hurt you fron time to time--but they will try to change behavior that distresses you. Remember: perfection is an illusion and no man or woman will ever be 100% available. We are all human and we all stumble from time to time. It's what we do when we fall short that matters.

When we are out there in the world of love and romance, putting our partner’s availability on the top of our list is important; however, we need to keep balanced expectations of people. Balance and moderation are essential when we are in a love relationship.

Promoted by the media, our parents and other cultural sources, we believe that the perfect relationship is out there. We think it's just a matter of finding that “someone special.” Then a relationship will be easy and we won't have to do any difficult work to get and keep 'happily ever after.'

The truth is that people aren’t perfect. Perfection is not real. It's a goal that can't be meet most of the time. Sure we can try, but the sad truth is that we will often fall short of this lofty goal. That's why our expectations can get us in trouble when we have romantic relationships--because there is nothing like romance to bring out our imperfections!!

So what's the answer? Well, there are a few rules of thumb to keep in mind. One is to let of of your unrealistic expectations of yourself AND your partner. Also know that giving about 80% to the relationship is acceptable for both you and the one you love. It leaves the other percentage free for each of you to develop your own interests - and for your partner to do the same.

Giving a reasonable amount within a relationship, and in the world, allows us all to be more human. Today have balanced expectations of yourself and your partner and watch the love increase.
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