It feels so good to commit to a relationship but commitment can seem so scary. We can wonder, OMG do I really have to be with this person forever? Thinking long term can be frightening.
Really when we choose unavailable people to date and partner with, that is a great escape from real committment. If the person we are with is unavailable, then we don't have to do the work of showing up and letting people see us. There is no real danger of having to do the real, long-term work of a relationship if our partner is already unavailable!
So whenever you choose someone unavailable to date, or 86 an available person, ask yourself if you are running away from committment. Ask yourself if the fear is too much to commit.
And most important--don't judge yourself if you find that YOU are the one who is afraid to commit. Awareness is everything. Once you know where YOU are, then you can move forward to loving an available person.
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