Is that devilish charmer too much to resist? Is that bad boy catnip for you? Is that spoiled princess your dream date?
Many people ask me why some individuals attract us so powerfully. They want to know why we can find it so hard to let go of someone, even if we know they are bad for us.
My answer is that a strong gravitational pull toward the unavailable partner usually means that we have unfinished business related to them--whether it is karma, or that they remind us of a parent or significant authority figure.
Of course, it also could just be wild attraction and pheromones
The truth is that we may never know the answer to why someone hooks us in so profoundly. And ultimately the cause doesn't really matter.
The only thing that is important is to really notice how this person makes us feel.
If we stay with the feelings and see the impact on our lives from being with someone who is unavailable, then we can make decisions that benefit us and act on those decisions.
So if you are attracted to someone who can't show up for you--allow yourself the chance to get closer to your feelings. Slowly but surely, as you gain awareness, you will be able to release them. Then you can share love with an availabler person.
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