So some people read my last post and wondered why it was so important to the woman in question not to get into a relationship with this man who had another woman he was in love with over in Italy. I mean, after all, Italy is far away, and there's no reason our stateside gal couldn't draw his attention away from some other woman half a world away. Right?
Hey, there's no right or wrong. It might be possible to tempt his attention away from the old story of his enamorata in Italy. Who knows?
OK. The real reason our US woman didn't want to go there? When anyone has someone or something that takes precedence over a relationship with us - whether it be their job, their mother, their hair, or their car - then they are not fully present for partnership.
What she was really saying is, I will take a step back and see what happens. I am noticing that he is not 80% available at this time, and that he is sending me mixed messages before we've even gone on a date! - and I am going to pay attention to these important indicators.
The bottom line is you can do anything you want to in a relationship - you can dive in, you can send some mixed messages of your own, or you can wait and see. Everything is allowed - just notice how you feel as you do it.
After her party, our American lady decided she already felt off balance in talking with this young man and she heeded her internal gauge.
Now she has the space, time, and emotional engergy to let in the love of someone truly available.
Viva Amore!
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