Sprinkler Heads

Have you ever dated someone who is a sprinkler head -- a person who checks out everyone else when you are together? Do you fear going to a restaurant or bar with your partner because they always look at the other customers and servers?

It can be very uncomfortable to date or be in a relationship with a sprinkler head. The reason is that most of us want our fair share of attention on a date or when we are in a partnership. This is absolutely acceptable. In fact, I have known many women and men who just couldn't deal with this behavior and had to break off relationships with sprinkler heads.

However, I want you to know that the one you are with may be completely unaware that they do this. They also might not even realize that their constant scanning of a room can be an issue for you.

If you feel you can take the step, it might be a good idea to let them know that the behavior bothers you. Then you can check in with yourself to see if they are trying to change the behavior. By speaking your truth, you teach people how to treat you.

But if they are not even attempting to change or can't -- and act like you are 'making a mountain out of a molehill,' then you have some decisions to make. Ultimately you need to figure out what your comfort level is with a sprinkler head.

Nobody is bad or wrong if they can't give you the attention you deserve. You just need to know that you are important and special and wonderful. Lots of potential partners out there would LOVE to let you know this by focusing on you when you are out on the town.

Live, Love, and Enjoy!